Duhhh? Amazing relationships don't just happen. Right? Seriously???
I do remember though, on our wedding day we were sternly provided marriage counsel which was, "The first 5 years will be hell. If you can get through it, you're on your way". Ok, sounds easy. We have mad love for each other, and we're married now, so...we've got this!
Not so much. And there have been some (lots of) days, when I didn't think my husband and I were going to make it. And it was perplexing because we both chose carefully. We are both amazing, responsible, contributing assets in our home, to our children, in our careers, and with friends and family. And we loved each other. Deeply. But the 'honeymoon stage' had ended, and everyday life was getting in the way of us happily growing as a unit.
Instead of giving in, we got a clue. Started to work on the areas of our marriage that needed attention. Started to put a lot more focus on each other. And finally made romantic time together, experiencing new things and expressing our love openly, a priority. Notice the word started. it is purposeful. I've realized the work that goes into making all our relationships amazing has no end, nor limitation.
Overwhelming? It should be - that means you care. No matter how nerve-wracking or surprising for newbies, consider this. Isn't your relationship the one thing that can make you feel warm and cuddly all day long? Would you agree that your relationship deserves more of you, than anything else in the world? Would you feel broken if you lost your relationship today, simply because you weren't paying attention? Answered yes each time? You are ready Friend, and the work ahead will be the most important 'work' you ever do.
I'm going to share with you my Lessons in Love, things that have helped my hubby and I, and things that did not. Things that I've learned, advice I've been given, and actions I've taken to write the love story I've aspired to live. I compare it to digging our graves. I know, morbid. But, when I decided he was forever, I planned to die by his side. And the deeper I dig, is the more satisfaction I get knowing that we are setting up a lifetime, together. And doing what real couples do. Buy burial plots. And enjoy every moment imaginable until then.